About a week after the change of manner was instituted, Janet and Frank were at home together one evening. She is a real piece of work. And how do I maintain peace in my home when the son seems to adopt her high strung, dramatic and loud nature? To that extent, the man is guilty as charged. So, I finally gave up. My hubby really felt hopeful for a minute.
They Will Use the Court System to Stay Engaged They will knowing you will take them back to court. All of the sudden she doesn't want me to pick her up when he can't. Should I just stay away? Poor daughter has to compromise all the time, really? Your time would be better spent to understand why you still want to be in a relationship with someone who acts this way. Due to her trying to take away all parental rights, We finally had to lawyer up and we were able to get an adjustment in parental agreement, she lost her battle for sole parental rights, they lowered our child support and the courts saw how unreasonable and crazy she was. He's a very sensitive boy and this must be tearing him apart. When she changed her direction, Frank also threw his truck in reverse. After three years, she handed me surprise divorce papers and left three hours later.
She's a danger to herself and her kids and I've tried to show much compassion. Either our relationship and I are number one, or we're done!!!! He didn't have any money on him, or even his mobile phone. Slapped me, punched me and hit me with a pole and had an affair. When looking for a therapist, I would encourage you to do a little digging. We have been on and off trying to be civil and for a few months we actually got on quite well, she would involve me with the children's arrangements, although she has always been the one messing it about and changing her mind of when my partner can see them, it has never been consistent, and after all that's what kids need right? I have been off of my high blood pressure pills due to life changes for my health for about 3 months. It has been a very painful process but there is no way to live with the constant abuse and threats from his ex, and my stepdaughter is too afraid of her mother to do anything else. I have asked for her to stop writing to me when I am communicating via email and both she and my ex say that they are a team and share everything and I have to deal with it.
Court ordered and still nothing. This type of woman is always angry. She constantly threatens she has thousands of pages of texts and photos and stuff she's going to send out to ruin our relationship and prove to me what a piece of shit my fiance is. I need help with this situation. My partner's ex divorced him 9 years ago and I have been with him for 7 years. He tried to show one to his youngest daughter who was at that point 16 but she refused to look at them, saying that he had probably written all those letters himself. I then suggested that I start looking at jobs away from where we reside, to move away and have a new job will give me more flexibility and we could live together to see where this relationship goes.
Now she's mad at me for having an affair and wanting to leave her? I had no idea that there were so many stepmoms who were in exactly the same position, married to a man with an ex-wife who had vowed to make his life a living hell. Since then things have been much better. Im honest to the bones. Besides, his work takes every ounce of energy in his body. Bitter Ex Wife Pattern Is she domineering, hard-nosed, malicious and controlling? Marriage is a higher calling.
But im better than that. Basically I know I'm a good father but the thought of going to court and possibly losing time with my kids literally scares the hell out of me. Now my concern is I don't want this person to enter in our lives anymore. But every story has two sides and John's version should also be told. I think in some instances seeing you as you were, and not as you are now, gives them fuel to fire the continuing grievances.
Called them once when she showed up and started to threaten us. She recently blew up on my bf and called me every name in the book. Over the years she has harassed me, my children and my family. So, I guess what we do now is to focus on ourselves and the child we brought into this world. !!! We've confronted it, I tried to have her charged for harassment but the judge just said we all need to get along , and we've ignored it. In the end we had to change our home number and gave her the number of a mobile phone which is only switched on at certain times throughout the day. Karen Finn is a divorce coach helping clients learn and navigate the chaos it brings.
We all go through stages of denial, anger, negotiation, depression and acceptance. Like-minded women are out there! I don't know what I should do. My husband called ex and child on the lies. Im totally pissed of with her, the typical scamming filipina, my husband already gaver her almost all the things he worked hard for, and still keep on harrassing us using the kids. These are all good threads.
I think it would help you most to write her a letter not to send necessarily to express your feelings about her treatment of your family and then have a trusted friend let you read it to them and then burn it to release it from your experience. If you have attempted to vent or sob about the crazy in your life and the other person has backed away from you slowly, then you are talking to the wrong people. But continues trying to poison the kids against him and he is a good dad. This hinders me from being able to take my kids for over nights, I've had to take them to hotels. Then talk about your hurts. It scares me to think I might be inviting drama into my life by dating a man with a son and ex who seem so dramatic. Blackmail and poison pen letters.
But as the article says - there will be extinction burst. Though, until you forgive your ex for what has been done and take responsibility for your part of the relationship even if your only part was not ending it sooner , it may be very difficult to create more love in your life. Focus on your daughter and the life you can build now. She lied about the nativity play times for the kids performance so he missed it and then told him it was because she was so pissed off at him. With God, all things are possible Matthew 19:26. Believe me, we know the pain you have been going through. Heart breaking what revenge is worth to some.