Honesty and open communication are everything in a relationship. . She kept telling me they phoned her to see how she is occasionally and that she has nothing to hide. What is so important that they need to do that? In fact, it's only likely to make you feel worse in the long term -- and it will be difficult not to come across as jealous and paranoid. By talking with her about this l realised l transfered a big mountain of my problems to her now she is in my shoes hopefully learning. I looked at the dates of the envelopes because he laid them out like he was showing something off and there is no dates past July. This shocked and rocked her to the core, she could not even stammer she was incoherent, l realised l was now at an advantage and had an upper hand.
It's important to keep in mind that even if your boyfriend still wants his ex to be part of his life, he still chose to be with you. Once you are ready to bring it up, calmly present your concerns and watch how your partner responds. Perhaps she wishes she never broke it off? Is it something that she does once in a while just to be polite? I have no clue what I should do. Make up your mind once and for all and decide about the relationship with your boyfriend and the direction its heading. Will your relationship suffer because of it? Not only because an ex is part of your past, it is also better for you and whomever you're with now. And talking to him late at night? Delete all chat records - facebook, hangouts, whatsapp etc. So does your boyfriend talk to his ex often? I tried to be the nicest boyfriend I could ever be, and I understood she needed time to get over her ex, but instead of getting over him, she started getting closer to him.
Moreover, I miss her so much for the fact that she was there when my father was dying of lung cancer. Having a girl with just one foot in the relationship is not a good thing. It drives me crazy to the point I have considered leaving more than once. My girlfriend was honest with me about their communication but i am wondering why she felt the need to contact her. She hasn't completely broken up with him. She has a livein man for 5 years. Before you react, reflect on what your rational response should be.
At times, he even deletes the texts as soon as he reads them. I hang up on her. There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. But I think all of the lies and misdirection and manipulation have spun my head around. Balls in your court now. She has specific reasons and you need to pay attention to each one. Explain how this revelation has hurt you sincerely and then be quiet and give her a chance to respond.
Is she really touchy-feely with your boyfriend? She needs to figure out if she wants to date you or the ex. Does this consider my bf is cheating on me? I have access to his facebook and even there she acts clingy and needy. Now l was thinking to accept the appology or let her suffer a bit till maybe end of the week. Why is it better to close lines of communication with an ex? She has to do that all by herself. And the conclusion to that conversation, well, that would decide the future of your relationship with her! Your girlfriend gets distant from you each time she meets her ex. First off, woman have friends for social reasons, security, convenience, and ones that might be potential partners.
So he then sends me a photo of the letters. We lived 45 minutes drive apart which is fine by me, but properly too far in her mind. There may be a chance that she feels sorry for the things that she did wrong, and she may have learned a lesson from the loss of no longer having you as her companion. Initially it was fine with my current gf, my ex and me. What your gf is doing is totally unacceptable and will ruin your relationship, give her an ultimatum. Big chances are, they probably are. Throughput the time I have discovered that she has been communicating with an ex.
Sorry but the truth is always hard to swallow. Also, apparently she has just fallen pregnant, and he has known about it for a week. I let my gf access to all my social media + personal email access etc. Why is Your Girlfriend Texting Her Ex Boyfriend? He'll probably be nervous that you'll discover his two-timing ways. Your girlfriend may be using you as a rebound guy, either to get over her ex or to make him jealous.
This means she is vesting herself in you and more likely to stick around. Keep in mind, though, that there were some sucky times too. We were doing great until I had a shitty dream. I was in a relationship with a girl who told me she loved me, but she also wanted to stay in touch with her ex. But her ex keeps speaking with her on phone and on message. Does she give you smug looks? In that case, maybe the fire between them has cooled off enough that they can legitimately be friends without any drama.