If we meet someone when we are feeling happy, we are much more inclined to like them than if we meet them when we are feeling unhappy. What constitutes a general reward or punishment, or a general benefit or cost, for example? The fact that people are attracted to those who make them feel good can also explain why people are attracted to those they cannot have. In each description was a statement that the stranger either liked or did not like the participant. Why do you like school, certain kinds of movies, etc. Ending and Sustaining Close Relationships Often, when people perceive a relationship to be unequal, they will end the relationship.
The reward theory of attraction takes into account long relationships. Those we are attracted to may have similar interests, attitudes, values and experiences that complement our own. Social pressures in informal groups; a study of human factors in housing. A dynamical evolutionary view of love. However, a basic problem with this theory is that it only explores the receiving of rewards, whereas Hays 1985 found that we gain satisfaction from giving as well as receiving.
Repulsion or attraction: Group membership and assumed attitude similarity. An important part in the growth of a relationship is the self-disclosure process. This study laid the foundation for hundreds of subsequent studies into the importance of similarity in attraction. The reward theory of attraction comes into effect when we feel attracted to those people who are similar to ourselves. It turns out that, without further information, this is a difficult question to answer. According to the principles of operant conditioning, we are likely to repeat any behaviour that leads to a desirable outcome and avoid behaviours that lead to an undesirable outcome. Some evidence for heightened sexual attraction under conditions of high anxiety.
Self-Disclosure Good friends and lovers share intimate details about themselves The more we share, the more attached we become It takes time to reach this, as self-disclosure usually comes after a sense of trust has been established Physical Attractiveness Is beauty only skin deep? Some variants of social exchange models presume that people are uncomfortable with any relationship that is an unfair bargain, whether they are underbenefitted getting less than they deserve or overbenefitted getting more than they deserve. The women rated the person they expected to be as being more likeable. There are many different ways or theories that try to explain social influence: To explain what happens in life, we construct theories of behavior. As a result of societal mores our forbidden desires are driven into our unconsciousness skeletons in your closet. In other words, a person will like the person who has provided him or her with three rewards and one punishment for a ratio of. A fondness if you like for the things that make them unique. If notability cannot be established, the article is likely to be , , or.
For a man and a woman who have just begun dating seriously, on the other hand, it may be that the man desires to pay the bill to demonstrate his possession of resources and that the woman is content to allow him to pay so as to get a sense of his commitment and ability to provide resources. Experience and behavior are integrated and organized. As an example you might feel rewarded when someone you are attracted to suddenly smiles at you. Reward Theory of Attraction: The theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding to us or whom we associate with rewarding events. People first sort potential partners for dissimilarity, avoiding those whose personality or attitudes appear too different from their own. This first impression can be important in both meeting a potential dating partner or in a job interview. This study also supports the claim that we like people who are associated with pleasant events.
When, after a strenuous week, we relax in front of a fire, enjoying good food, drink, and music, we will likely feel a special warmth toward those around us. Love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion. And since their first love, by result of its novelty and emotional significance, is potentially the most prominent, it may be the representation that is summoned when they meet a potential someone new, which effects the way they see that new relationship. Again, dopamine plays a major role. We become the people we are because we were raised that way, rewarded for some behaviors and punished for others, thus we associate some things with good feelings and others with bad feelings.
Even love at first sight could be a basic mammalian response that our ancestors inherited to speed up the mating process. According to this model, there are two distinct stages in the formation of relationships. The fourth factor is to practice the above three behaviors until such time that they become automatic and constant in your everyday life. Exceptions to the Reward Theory of Attraction text here Attraction and Self-Justification cognitive dissonance: A highly motivated state in which people have conflicting cognitions, esp. A lot of guys are good at getting a first date, but can never turn it into a second or third date. Another domain-general model attempts to explain attraction by referencing broad principles of social exchange. Flashcards vary depending on the topic, questions and age group.
When a person cannot get somebody, the dopamine system keeps on spitting out , providing the , focus and motivation necessary to keep trying. However it could be said that this theory explains why we maintain relationships rather than how we form them. Elaine Hatfield 1966 Randomly matched 376 couples who were first year students after collecting personality and aptitude tests. If someone constantly made you feel down and depressed, would you want to spend any considerable time with them? I think I could have easily believed that other girls were trying to initiate relationships with guys. Domain-specific theories of attraction make more particular predictions about what will and will not be attractive, depending on the particular category of relationship between two people and on their particular goals at the time. Men value opposite-sex physical attractiveness more than women Feingold, 1990, 91 90% of cosmetic surgery patients are women. Social psychologist Elliot Aronson believes that most good relationships can be seen as an exchange of benefits like praise, status, information, sex or emotional support.